From the top of the ferris wheel of young love
You came to exist within me
Though I will never see your face or hear your heart beat
I carry you with me still
I had lofty goals of starting a family while starting a career
With less than 9 months to solve big problems, reality set in
I was privileged enough to have a job but not privileged enough to have maternity leave
I searched desperately for arms to hold you while I worked, considered everyone I knew, and found no one because everybody else was working too.
I am grateful for my freedom to choose what I do with my body
I take responsibility for my abortion but I must acknowledge the role that US healthcare un-system played in my decision
Why is it that so many nations have figured out how to provide years of parental leave, afford their citizens healthcare as a human right, give freedom to live without fear of financially devastating medical bills, yet we cling so bitterly to our ‘freedom’ that it poisons us to death
Our freedom is an illusion- the uneven distribution of privilege in America imprisons us in different ways while blinding us to each other’s struggles
Dear one, I blame myself for your abbreviated and hidden existence- I chose an unforgiving career with militant training and rigid requirements that didn’t allow space for the expanding curves of my female body
I felt trapped between the walls I planted myself between, I searched but I didn’t find room for you
I prioritized service to others so much that I had nothing left to give to you
I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.
Those words don’t come close to expressing the raw maternal emotions I feel for you, little one.
The air above my closed lips crushes me, impregnated with secrets
Even if I had managed to keep you, American freedoms might have killed you in your youth. We have racism and freedom for gun violence in this country, dear one, and you would have been born brown.
The lack of support for pregnant women and new mothers in the United States is barbaric.
Instead of taking away our constitutional right for abortion, give us a constitutional right for maternity leave.
Instead of the right to bear arms, I wish I had the right to hold you in my arms.